There’s no such thing as ‘Happily Ever After.’
You’ve probably heard someone say this at some point. Typically it is in rebuttal to the fantasy type romance offered by Disney movies, romantic dramas, fairy tales, and chick flick type entertainment. This statement is meant to guard women in particular against believing that some day their prince in shining armor will appear out of nowhere, fall instantly in love, and stay that way forever. Many argue that these stories portray false illusions of beauty and love and cause girls to grow up expecting a fairy tale “Happily Ever After” that simply does not exist. But is that what we really want to teach our children? That the idea of being happy forever is a myth?
I firmly believe in “Happily Ever After.” Not in the gooey, sappy, our-eyes-met-across-a-crowded-room-and-instantly-I-loved-you sort of way. Not in a naive notion of relationships without trials, arguments, or tears. But in true happiness that lasts forever.
Happiness, I believe is an expression of joy. Of the true joy that is found only in Christ. Even on the days when I struggle the most, I can still find a glimmer of joy. It might be a kiss from my husband. Maybe a phone call from my Mom. Maybe it’s the silly antics of my little pup or a beautiful sunset. It could be a song that comes on the radio, a funny squirrel outside my window, a text from my sisters. More than all those little things, even if I can’t seem to find one teeny tiny speck of happiness, I only need to go to Him.
“Although you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and rejoice with an indescribable and glorious joy, for you are receiving the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls.” ~ 1 Peter 1:8
We can be filled with indescribable joy because of Jesus Christ our Savior! That joy is the happiness we seek. And this is the happiness that truly can last forever!
“You show me the path of life. In your presence there is fullness of joy; in your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” ~Psalm 16:11
If we truly believe in God’s eternal promise to us, then “Happily Ever After” is more than a myth, it is precisely what we are seeking! In our relationships we are called to lead others to Christ and to the eternal happiness found only through Him in heaven. “Happily Ever After” is not about a boy and a girl who fall in love with each other and never have a care in the world. No. Instead, it is about finding the person God has intended for you and helping each other through thick and through thin to grow in faith and love of the Lord so that one day we truly will be in heaven with Him. There is a happiness, a joy, that cannot be found in anything or anyone other than Christ. Being able to share my faith with my husband as we grow together puts us on the path to the true happily ever after together in heaven with our loving Father who reigns forever and ever. That is the happily ever after I believe in.