After a few years of dealing with infertility, it can seem like there are two options available: continue to pursue medical treatment or begin the process to adopt. In reality there is also a third option and it is the option my husband and I have decided to take at this point.   And that is, basically, to do nothing.

Some might say that given what the doctors have said this doesn’t make any sense. Some might say that if we really wanted a baby we would do something more proactive at this point. Some might just shake their head in a sad fashion with a look that seems to say “so you’ve given up?”

And that could not be further from the truth. I still long desperately to be a mother. I still pray daily that it will happen. But after years of trying this treatment or that, we simply said “enough.” Enough tests, enough medication, enough stress, enough of the medical appointments (and bills that go along with them).

While adoption is a wonderful calling, it is just that: a calling. Not something that is a “last resort” option to have children. Despite how much we want a child, we simply do not feel the call to adopt. Deep in our hearts, we both still strongly feel that we will conceive and we will have our baby. And so we will continue to pray, continue to trust, continue to hope, and continue to wait.

I used to worry about what we would do when we reached this point. I would grow panicked at the thought of being able to do absolutely nothing else. But now that we are here? Now that we have made this decision? I feel immense peace about it. I know in my heart we will be parents. And I truly believe that we will become parents through conception. Even still, as we sit back and wait, we will continue to pray for God’s will to be made clear and to trust that if His will is something different, He will make it known to us.

We are not giving up hope, but we are giving up control. At the end of the day, it is God who creates life. Our decision to do nothing is a decision to fully give it to God. While I have said to myself before that we give this up to the Lord, a part of me still held onto control. A part of me felt that I had to try all my options. And I am glad that I did. I learned things about my overall health and got my body back on track. But now, I feel very comfortable with the decision to let go of it all and leave it fully in His hands.

A year ago today, on the Feast of the Immaculate Conception, I made my first Marian consecration following the 33 Days to Morning Glory retreat. It was an important step in my faith and one that has led me closer and closer to Christ. The consecration calls me to give everything I have and everything that I am to Jesus through Mary. It calls me to relinquish all control and to trust in the everlasting goodness and mercy of our Lord. It may have taken me a year, and I certainly still have a ways to go, but I feel that on this anniversary of my consecration, I am truly ready in my heart to let go and give it all up to Him.

Today also marks the opening of the Jubilee Year of Mercy. To celebrate this, my church is holding a Bible study on Divine Mercy throughout the Old and New Testaments. Our first session was last night. To open the session, we listened to Matt Maher’s song “Your Grace Is Enough” and discussed how God’s grace, God’s mercy, is truly the heart of our faith. Pope Francis said in his Angelus address today, “Mercy is the key-word of the Gospel” and that “we should not be afraid: we should allow ourselves to be embraced by the mercy of God, who waits for us and forgives everything.”

Today, at the start of the Jubilee Year of Mercy, while celebrating the Feast of the Immaculate Conception and the anniversary of my first Marian consecration, I am ready to stop being afraid, to give it all up to God, and to allow His rich mercy to surround me and fill my soul. In deciding to do nothing, I feel that we are leaving ourselves open to everything. He has a plan for us, one that while I may not yet understand it, I know in my heart will be far greater than what I could come up with on my own. I am ready to really immerse myself in His mercy and let my heart be open to His will in my life. Because His mercy, His love, His grace is enough.

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10 thoughts on “Enough

  1. nancyehead December 8, 2015 at 4:11 pm Reply

    It’s a moment of beauty to completely give God control.

  2. monicakay December 8, 2015 at 8:36 pm Reply

    This speaks to me. I sometimes feel frustrated in my love life, having many disappointments. I sometimes feel in the dark. But the ability to surrender takes courage and complete trust in something you cannot see. God is the maker of miracles. Patience.

    • rosesnearrunningwaters December 8, 2015 at 10:01 pm Reply

      Patience is a tough one! But God can certainly work miracles in many ways! I am glad the post spoke to you. God Bless!

  3. Peter December 9, 2015 at 5:51 am Reply

    God has His own plans for us; plans we may not be able to see or appreciate. But God loves us and wants what is best for us. Trust in the Lord and in His might. I will pray for you

    • rosesnearrunningwaters December 9, 2015 at 9:09 am Reply

      This is so very true and unfortunately is something that can be easily forgotten during tough times! I thank you for your prayers! God Bless!

  4. SR December 9, 2015 at 9:15 pm Reply


    I have really been thinking about this post the past couple of days. It really touched me. I will be back to respond to it. Had a friend die yesterday, and am kind of busy. I want you to know, it really reached my heart! Love you with all of that heart! God Bless, SR

    • rosesnearrunningwaters December 9, 2015 at 9:34 pm Reply

      Thank you SR. I am sorry to hear about your friend. Prayers to you my friend

  5. SR December 12, 2015 at 12:10 pm Reply

    You know Rose, I have thought and thought about this post. How I admire your courage and faith here, not that I have not always admired it.

    Rose, sometimes the hardest thing God calls us to do, is to let go of our wants and desires. That is always a hard one for myself. When we do, then we have to cling to His will for our lives, whether it lines up with our will or not.

    I have found though when I do this, there is a “strange” peace that comes with it. The mind begins to settle down. The questions go away. The struggles of trying to make our wants come to be, magically disappears. I find a “rest” in heart, mind, body and soul, which by this point I am so desperately needing.

    I believe with all of my heart you are doing the right thing. The right thing for you and your husband. The right thing for your spiritual life.

    Rose, sometimes to do nothing, especially concerning what God desires for our lives, is to do EVERYTHING! Love to you and God Bless, SR

    • rosesnearrunningwaters December 12, 2015 at 7:19 pm Reply

      Thank you SR! You know it’s true I really do feel peace with it. Not to say some days aren’t still tough but overall I feel much more at peace with the whole situation than I have been in the past. We’ll just see where God takes us from here! Love & blessings to you my friend!

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